Five Facts About Relationships You Have Been Ignoring

You think you know all there is to know about relationships? Guess again.

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So you went through a couple of break ups and now you think you have it all figured out.
You have never been more wrong. The truth is, there is a lot we overlook in a relationship especially when we are deeply swept in the magic or worse.. when we walk in with a personalized formula of doe's and dont's.
If you are one of those two, here are five important things you have been ignoring..

It is a two - way street

Okay, he's the sweetest guy in the world and he loves you deadly... Big deal!
If he doesn't bring anything to the table then he is not in the ship of relations with you.
He needs to not only shower you with kisses every now and then, but also be there for
you when you need him and especially when you don't. Wait, did I say a two way steert?
Ooh yes. Dear ladies, your men are not ATM machines or your dads or some charity funds. If you want them to show you some love, show some love. Relationship is about both of you being able to come together and share. Not come to collect.

It is built on honesty and not love

Don't get It twisted, love has nothing to do with two people being in a relationship. They must first choose to be in it before it becomes one. So when you meet that person that makes your world go round in slow motion, don't be fooled that your feelings alone can make you two last. A relationship is a living whole, and like all living things it needs food to survive. Honesty, is the food of relationships. It is the building block. Without It, all crumbles. No matter how many 'I LOVE YOU's' exchanged, how many gifts bought, dates attended, texts sent, or calls made... without honesty it is merely a ticking time bomb, and we all know what happens when that timer reaches zero.

It is a true test of altruism

If you want to know the type of person your soon to be mr/miss right is, just date them. Living in a companionship of any kind is a challenge. It needs patience, empathy, compassion, and even sacrifice. You have to know that there are times when you have to swallow your pride for the sake of your relationship. If you can't make even the little compromises then you are not going to have a smooth ride with your dearly beloved.

It does not solve personal problems

Here is the sweet part. Did you ever get into a relationship because;
 
You were lonely and needed somebody to kiss you good night?
You just came from a break up and want to get over your ex?
You have never been lucky with men/women so you want to hold on to the miracle?
All your best friends have lovers except you?
You desperately want to fall in love?

I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but my dear you are wasting your time,  merely taking a detour. Once that relationship ends you will find that none of your problems were solved and in fact, you just collected some new ones. Stop treating a relationship as a tool. It is precious.

It does not bring happiness

When they said happiness is an attitude they actually meant it. When you can find fulfillment in yourself, you will be happy anywhere. You don't need a relationship for that. If you are unhappy with your place in the world, get a life. A relationship is not a ginnie lamp for making wishes and day dreams come true.

Still think you're an expert?

Trust me, no one is. We are all still learning. But one thing you should always remember, if you respect a relationship, it will give you the same in return.

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